The first few days following homecoming, I treated like I treated the start of this deployment: avoiding conflict. When the soldiers prepare to come home the spouse and soldiers are educated about possible changes in the soldier when coming home. But also like the start of this deployment, I realized not addressing feelings or problems with Akeem when he came home was not going to be a reality that worked for me either. It was a matter of finding balance.
Despite a few kinks, Akeem coming home has been a fairly easy transition especially when I compare it to the worse alternatives. Elliott has taken well to his dad being back home and I admit I missed this snoring man beside me at night (though I have wanted to smother him with a pillow when the snoring starts up since he has been home lol). Deployment definitely strengthened our relationship. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but communication is what makes a relationship stay together. We did a LOT of talking when he was gone. About anything and everything.
Deployment is what you make of it (on both sides). You can choose to be miserable and drown in the thoughts of separation or you can focus on growth. While my marriage is not perfect, I do feel grateful that I have a husband who was willing to see this deployment the same way. Now that this is behind us, we are moving forward to bigger and better things and hoping that there isn't another deployment in the near future or in the future at all.
Deployment ends........just remember that:-)