Friday, May 31, 2013

The Story of an Army Wife: The Second Baby Conversation

So the time has come where the conversation about a second baby takes on a new tone of voice.

In an ideal world, I would go ahead and get pregnant now so that my kids could be close and age and my husband won't feel "too old" to be having another child.  However, we don't live in an ideal world. We live in this one.

About a week ago, my husband told me he wants to have another kid now.  Since he had had a couple of beers, I laughed it off thinking that it was the alcohol talking.  Akeem quickly told me that he had been thinking about it since they were in the field the week before and that they were definitely sober then.

Suddenly, it was I that was having sobering thoughts. Over the course of our relationship, Akeem and I have talked about the number of kids we would have.  I, personally, went through various emotions with having a second kid.

During my pregnancy, I thought maybe I could have three kids.  Then that thought changed to having no more kids while I was in my 5 day stay in the hospital when I had Elliott.  Once Elliott started becoming more curious about his surroundings, I started having baby fever.

However, my baby fever was quickly killed once I had a pregnancy scare 2 months ago.  Akeem and I both let out a sigh of relief when the test was negative.  So I was a little taken aback when Akeem mentioned having another baby soon over the course of a few days.

I am not one of those women who enjoyed pregnancy.  In fact, some of my more trying days came over the course of those ten months.  Between still dealing with the struggles of being in my first year of marriage, the death of both of my maternal grandparents, not being able to experience pregnancy with my close family and friends, and just the general misery that your body goes through.........I would say I don't associate pregnancy with happy thoughts.

Pregnancy was hard on my marriage.  While the details aren't something I care to share, it is something that looms in the back of my mind about being pregnant a second time so soon.  Often, I don't think men realize how much they are asking when it comes to having children.

My son is my world and I would give my life for him, but I would be lying if I said I was ready to bring a kid into this world a year ago.  I never envisioned myself as a stay at home mom and while I cherish (most of) every moment with my son, at times I hate the feeling of the thought that my husband looks at me nothing more than just the mother to his second son and a stay at home mom.

It feels selfish at times, but the thought of having a second kid right now feels like a horse kicking me in the head.  Because it is not my husband who will be stuck in the house with two babies under two and forgotten by friends and former coworkers, it will be me.  Right now, one baby is enough.  I want to focus myself, my marriage, and being a good mom to one child.....for now.

With my husband's 30th birthday just around the corner, I know that he feels more pressure than I do (there is almost 5 years between us).  But with me not working, trying to get back in shape, a possible deployment around the corner, and a marriage only in it's second year.......I think we should take the time and just enjoy our little family.

After all is said and done, I do want another kid with Akeem.  I can't wait to see him with a daughter, but I'll be happy with whatever we have.  Though I will be refilling my birth control prescription tomorrow, I will say that the conversation has definitely had me reconsidering my timeline for a second child.  Maybe baby number 2 won't be so far off in the future as I once planned.  Guess we will see:-)

Friday, May 24, 2013

Two Month Weightloss Countdown: Day 7 (Cleanser Half Way Point)

Today marks the half way point of my 14 day cleanse.  It has been a disgusting journey, but I have lost some weight!

Now, I don't want to give off any false impressions that the Acai Berry Cleanse is the sole reason for the decrease in weight.  While my husband has been away, I have been able to avoid eating as much as I usually do. 

I will admit, I have no real self control or will power. When I do........well it is a surprise to everyone, myself included.  So when my husband left for the field this past week, I took advantage of not having to cook meals for a man who has an appetite of a teenage boy.  Akeem and I are like those Slimquick commercials where they man's weight loss is never an issue and the woman can never lose weight.

For five of the past 7 days, I have been doing the 2 meal substitute concept.  The first two days that I did it, I used the Slim-Fast shakes.  I substituted my breakfast and dinner with them.  The other days I used the Equate (Walmart brand) version.  Today I only substituted breakfast because before I got to dinner I was way under my calorie count according to My Fitness Pal tracker.  So I ate a Lean Cuisine meal since I was too lazy to cook after the gym.
So far I have lost 4.4 pounds.  With the exception of today and a short walk on Monday, I have not worked out during the first half of this cleanse.  Obviously at my weight, 4 pounds is not going to be noticeable but it is progress.

Tomorrow will be the true test because now my husband is home and I will be going back to cooking regularly.  I will have to find a compromise on what we eat because I refuse to cook two different meals.  However, the good thing about him coming back (in relation to my weight loss) is that I can now go back to the gym while he watches our son.  I hate the outdoors and working out outside during the summer is not really my cup of tea.

Today, my exercise consisted of walking, leg press, sprints, and lat pull downs.  Also, just an F.Y.I. I weigh myself in the morning before I eat anything.  Just thought I'd share that little tidbit with y'all.

Until my next post.........I wish anybody else trying to lose weight good luck!

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Review: 14-Day Acai Berry Cleanse

The 14-Day Acai Berry Cleanse is a cleanse that I have used a few times over the last several years.  I even used it as recently as about 2 months ago but ended up having some sort of bug the last day, which made my results inconclusive.  But this time around, I am determined to jump start this weight loss.

The cleanse, the nasty part of my weight loss, is my first step to my 2 month weight loss.  Today marks day two of my weight loss plan as well as my cleanse.

So what is the purpose of a cleanse?  This particular cleanse is meant to cleanse the colon of toxins and waste.  The effects are similar to using a laxative but (in my opinion) not as harsh.  However, according to the Live Strong website, colon cleanses are only temporary solutions:

It is quite possible to lose some weight using a colon cleanser, but this loss is at least partly the result of water weight. Colon cleansers increase the rate of fecal movement within the colon, which limits the amount of fluids absorbed by the intestinal walls. During a bowel movement, a person using a colon cleanser evacuates more fluids than usual, giving the illusion of weight loss; however, this is a temporary situation. As soon as you replace the lost fluids, the weight will return.

-Dana Severson

Acai berries in weight loss supplements seems to be the new trend.  While there is no definitive research behind it, the fruit is purposed to have a "positive effect on fat-burning."

According to an article by Edie Mills, "Acai alone may positively impact fat-burning by helping eliminate toxins, which can slow down or impair fat-burning. More research is needed to determine whether acai can increase metabolic rate; however, it cannot hurt."
Now when you combine a cleanser and acai berry, you get:
14-Day Acai Berry Cleanse is scientifically formulated to cleanse your digestive tract and get rid of any excess matter that could be clogging your system.* In just days, you can experience increased regularity, reduced bloating and a flatter abdomen.*
-According to the Applied Nutrition website, the company who makes the cleanser

I personally don't take this cleanse with the expectation that I will lose some serious weight.  My intentions are to somewhat detoxify my body.  It is not my favorite cleanse, mainly because it is a 14 day cleanse as opposed to the 7 day ones I have taken in the past.  When you have a great need to go to the bathroom at the most inconvenient of times, realizing it last for a whole extra week isn't exactly appealing.

It is not often that I find a 7 day cleanser in the grocery store anymore (you can find more expensive versions at GNC); therefore, I keep coming back to this particular one.  The product gets the job done and I will say that I have lost the 2 to 3 pounds every time I have used it.  

Don't use this product often, for like laxatives, it can cause issues with your digestive system if your body becomes dependent upon it.  I also would not recommend this for long term results or a "quick" fix.

You take 4 pills a day, 2 before breakfast and 2 before bed.  I would recommend that you make sure when you begin this process, that you are able to have quick/easy access to a bathroom.  It has never given me the "runs" but it definitely will hit you all at once and unexpectedly.

I wish you luck with your weight loss journey.  If you have any questions, feel free to email me at and add me on My Fitness Pal: krisevans5059.

 My starting weight for this 2 month weight loss and this cleanse is 208.  I will post an update on the 7th and 14th day.

Friday, May 17, 2013

Two Month Weightloss Countdown: Day 1

So today, I've decided that I will mark the beginning of my race to look sexy.  A race that I seem to constantly lose.  However, this time I feel a little more hungry for it.
On July 16th, my husband will be turning the big 3-0.  This is my deadline.  To get my sexy "back" to help bring in the next decade of his life.

Now, I have never really been a tiny girl.  But I have spent the last 8 or so years telling myself that I would never get "that big."  Then when I would get "that big," I would look at a girl bigger/heavier than me and say I would never get "that big."  Every time I got that big, the same words would come out of my mouth.

When I moved back in with my parents back in 2011, I decided to do something about it.  I started going to the gym and I saw results.  Then I got married and moved to Kentucky and all was lost.  I tried again to get back to the gym last spring.

Amusingly enough as I started working out again, I started to think, "Wouldn't it suck if I got pregnant right when I was trying to lose weight?"

I was 203 pounds when I found out I was pregnant and ended my pregnancy around 240ish. I am currently fluctuating around 208 lbs.  This is the most I've ever weighed (while not pregnant and recovering from my c-section).
Today I started a cleanse, which I will post about tomorrow.  I've also been using a the My Fitness Pal app to help me keep track of my weight and what I eat.  While I'm not big on counting calories, it does help give me perspective on what I put in my body versus how much goes out.

While I won't be posting daily with the tedious details of what I eat or every bit of exercise, I will post about my triumphs and I'm sure some failures.  Hopefully, putting this out there for the world will make me have some accountability.

If you would like to follow me on My Fitness Pal or would like some encouragement in your weightloss journey, feel free to add me.  My user name is krisevans5059.

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